Clare Palgrave – Energy therapist and coach – London and Herefordshire

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Meditation is about expansion, not nothingness

Many people comment that when they experience a deeper level of consciousness in their meditations that it seems like they go to a place of nothingness, or emptiness. However, once we really embrace the understanding that during meditation we are connecting with a much wider range of consciousness than in our day to day lives, we can begin to realise that what we view as nothingness in our meditations, is actually a connection to a much more refined range of energies that we find hard to interpret and give meaning to, so we tend to describe the experience as nothingness.

This can belittle the depth and extent of the experience. By continuing to practice meditation we develop a sensitivity to the qualities of our deeper connection and start to expand an awareness of who we are and the nature of our connection to the larger field of consciousness.

I have meditated for at least the past 30 years. I’ve used a variety of meditation approaches, but whichever approach I have used I have found that sometimes I let go of meditating, and, as one friend put it, ‘become meditated’. When that happens I often find that I enter a ‘place’ that defies description. It doesn’t have any sense of time. Thoughts hardly arise. I may experience no sense of being in my own body. I may even wonder whether I have fallen asleep because I have no real tangible recollection of what ‘happened’ in that segment of time during the meditation.

Meditation: a deeper or wider spectrum of consciousness beyond comprehension

I’ve found that when people experience this sense of nothingness that they can often feel that they have not succeeded in meditating, because they have no tangible memory to hold onto, and they sometimes say that they must have fallen asleep instead of being in a deeper state of awareness. And, though people can, and do, fall asleep in meditation, that is normally because they are sleep deprived.

More often it is the case that they have experienced, even if only briefly, a transition to a wider and deeper level of consciousness that exists beyond the normal range of our comprehension: “The peace that passeth all understanding” or a level of omniscience that cannot be related to our day to day lives. And because we cannot comprehend the nature of the wider spectrum of consciousness of which we form a part, and have been taught by our rational educational system to discount anything that lies beyond our own skin, we simply do not pay sufficient attention to what we have connected to.

Subtle variations in quality during meditation

As we continue to meditate we start to detect subtle variations in the quality of that emptiness that we appear to enter into, and then we can realise that we are not entering a void of nothingness, but rather that we are connecting with a level of consciousness that has more subtlety to it.

What do I mean by more subtlety? I have come to understand that we are human manifestations of energy condensed into matter and that there are many energies that do not condense into the density of matter with which we are familiar. We are very used to how matter as we experience it appears, and we can respond to that matter and react to it. This physical matter that we are responding to is simply very dense, and relatively slow energy. But matter makes up a very small part of the overall energy of the universe, and there is an infinity of energies which span the very dense to the very light and non physical, and from the very slow to the very fast. And energy and consciousness are just different words for the same thing.

In our day to day living we filter out all the non physical less dense energies. We also filter out many of the energies that are faster (and slower sometimes) than the milieu we live in and what we feel comfortable with. But, in reality, we all have the ability to connect in with faster and less physical energies than we realise. Meditation allows us to do that, and the void, the nothingness, and the deep peace that results from meditation is beneficial, not only for it’s restorative effects, but also because it contributes to our growth beyond our existing perception of ourselves.

Developing sensitivity through meditation

As we continue to connect with these more subtle types of energy through our meditations we start to expand our sensitivity to those energies in our daily life, both for our own benefit and for the benefit of our fellow travellers.  As we develop that sensitivity to those more elusive energies which we generally discount, then we can make that energy available to others, just by the simple expedient of expressing those energies in our own being. The quality of who we are, and how we behave in the world, changes, and it affects others around us. Life flows more easily for us, and we affect the energetic makeup in the environment for the better.

What we are doing in meditation is developing a stronger connection with our Inner Being, our core selves, our non physical essence, the part of us who existed before we came into being and who was responsible for creating us. As we develop that stronger connection with our Inner being there is a greater flow of energy that occurs between us and our own Inner Being, so that we can develop and blossom into greater creativity and contribute more meaningfully to our own and to humanity’s evolution.

A doorway to a greater sense of who we are

So, meditation is a doorway into a realm of growth, expanded perception of who we are, and recognition of the extent to which we can and do impact everything around us. Once we start to recognise that we are just beginning to touch greater and greater depths of consciousness, then we can start to appreciate our place in the cosmos and the significance of each and every one of us. What a beautiful thing to do!

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I’m now offering sessions in London

I am delighted to announce that as from mid November I will be offering sessions at Terapia, London EC1R 5HL, once a month.

This is an opportunity for those who wish to experience my blend of coaching and energy therapy work in the London area. Sessions will be held once a month at this clinic, and intervening sessions will be handled by Skype.

This combination of appointments in person and by Skype allows for a blend of personal contact and the flexibility to have follow up and interim appointments in your own home without needing to travel.

The first London clinic will be on Monday 12 November, and I plan to run in person clinics every month thereafter.

If you would like to experience the powerful benefits of combining NLP with energetic approaches, then why not arrange an appointment?

As well as working energetically using hands-on energy balancing, I also offer an alignment which help to clear your energetic pathways so that you are able to connect more strongly with your core self and make more effective changes in your life.

If this interests you then contact me to arrange an appointment.

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Sensing energy in built environments

Here’s a fun exercise to try to start developing your own sensitivity to less physically apparent energies. We are part of a continuum of energies ranging from the very physical and measurable energies that science can measure to those that can be explained by quantum mechanics but cannot yet be detected.

This exercise formed part of some one-to-one training/coaching for a recent client, and was specifically tailored to his personal life situation. It can be easily modified to fit in with where you live and your personal interests. But the important aspect of it is that you visit places you wouldn’t otherwise go to, and start sensing your environment in a different way and start to perceive it and descibe it in a way that is outside of the box.


Sensing energy in built environments

Find some time during the next few weeks to visit 4 different religious buildings. These could be a mosque, a gurdwara (Sikh temple), a Hindu temple and a church. They should all be significantly different culturally so that the energy imprints from them are easy to read.

When you visit these places you are paying attention to the subtle or non physical energy aspect of these places, not the impressions that are taken in by your eyes, nose, ears or even taste.

What you are paying attention to is the felt sense in your body.

Pay attention as you walk through the entrance to the building, and note how your body experiences that entrance.

Has anything in your felt body experience changed?

What happens to your whole body experience as you walk around the building just sensing through your whole body?

Are there any changes in sensation in your body? If so, what?

Where in your body are these changes most noticeable?

How do these changes in body sensation come to your attention?

Is there anywhere in the building which you feel drawn to?

Is there anywhere in the building where you feel less comfortable?

Don’t analyse why this might be the case – just notice the differences in the somatic (body sense) feel as you walk around each of these buildings.

Now, with each building as you visit you are going to start matching a description to the senses you are feeling. This is not to gain accuracy, but to help you feel more into the sense.

Body feelings are often so different from the sight, sound, smell touch and taste senses, that we do not have a language for them. So, imagine that you were labeling your experience of the building, or part of the building where you are standing as if it was taste, smell etc. You might not be able to equate the experience to a specific description but you might be able to say, for instance, that your experience of the gurdwara was more ebullient than gentle, or more spicy than bland.

So, considering your body sense as smell start identifying how you might describe it:

is it, sweet, floral, pungent, spicy, eyewatering, musky? What other descriptors might you come up with?

Now try again with sound:

is it loud, soft, gentle, resonant, clamourous, harmonic, trilling? What other descriptors might you use?

Now with taste. Here there is a very wide range of herbs and spices, meats, vegetables, fruits and drinks that might apply- just as wine tasters suggest that a wine might be floral even though there are no flowers in it. And then there are general descriptors such as sour, bland, spicy, creamy etc.

And then with sight. Descriptors might be:

bright, dull, sunny, dark, light, glinting, matt, any number of colours and so on.

Finally use some descriptors for touch. Touch doesn’t have a specific organ as a sensor and does rely on the whole body more, but generally when we think of touch we are thinking of how our fingers perceive something. So, is the building:

hot, cold, warm, sticky, smooth, velvety, coarse, satiny, lumpy, pebbly? What other descriptors might you use?

The point of this exercise is not to accurately define in words what your sensory and energetic experience of each building is, but to open you up to sensing the experience in greater depth and subtlety. Just as when we first learn to talk we have a very limited vocabulary, so when we first become aware of our body’s response to a building’s energetic presence we may perceive it in a very simple and unsophisticated way. This is because we have been used to screening out such impressions of our environment in favour of our organ based senses – sight, sound, taste, smell and finger touch.

Our bodies work as antennae, and started working this way in our mother’s womb. But because we cannot switch off, or selectively stimulate our body sense because it is switched on all the time, we often learn to screen out any input from it.

This exercise seeks to start the reversal process. Once we start to pick up on the subtler sensations that our body is perceiving all the time, we can then choose to tune in or tune out when necessary. Learning to tune in to our somatic experience is key to developing a sensitivity to subtler and subtler forms of energy. This exercise is for you to start developing your own body experience vocabulary. You will learn where in your body acts as the most sensitive sensor. You will learn to notice bodily sensations more. You will learn to notice different felt senses, from very noticeable and focused sensations, to very diffuse experiences which might previously have passed unnoticed.

Your body is the interface between your normally sensed environment and the non-physical energies that we are seeking to develop a sensitivity to. Connecting more consciously to these energies enables us to start to develop our energetic pathways in our body, the pathways that cannot be detected by current science. These pathways connect into a non physical consciousness and when we connect into that wider range of consciousness we feel more whole and complete in ourselves, and start to participate in a dialogue with a larger whole of which we are an essential part.


As an alternative, or if you have time you can repeat this exercise in the outside environment.

Choose several very different types of environment: a park, somewhere in the country, a carpark or other outdoor intensively used area, (maybe a farmyard could also be an example.) Be creative in your choices and step outside your normal comfort range as this will expose you to experiences which are not so normal for you and so easier to detect.


If you are interested in working with me online to develop your sensitivity to non physical energies and how to use that sensitivity to develop yourself then see how I work here or  contact me. I like working one to one with people and tailoring the coaching/training specifically to your needs. My training is a mix of structure and spontaneity and I look at our connection to energies in a holistic way so that you can develop your sensitivity as rapidly as possible. Besides becoming more sensitive, along the way you will have fine-tuned your life to become more vibrant and healthier.

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Weekly Deep Connection Meditation Reminder – 8pm UK time Tuesday evening

Deep conn medI invite you to join us for our shared Deep Connection Meditation at 8 pm this Tuesday UK time. It’s absolutely free.

A quote from one participant: ” I feel more clear, less mentally cluttered, and more able to sort out what is important in my life.” Continue reading

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Meditation recordings specially tailored to your needs

I now am offering personalised guided meditation recordings.

The way it works is that we book a time to talk over Skype (or Whatsapp or Facetime) for a little while so that I can connect to you at an energetic level. Then, whilst you are still on the internet connection I ask you to prepare yourself for a meditation session, and I intuitively develop a meditation specifically oriented towards the key issues that you have identified, and other areas that I tune into whilst we are talking.

I record this meditation at the same time as I lead you through it over Skype and send it to you afterwards.

Typically, each meditation lasts 25 minutes, unless you specify that you would like a shorter one.

I suggest that you listen to this meditation, ideally each day, at a convenient time. Often the best time is when you settle down to sleep, as that is when you are starting to access your deeper connection with your larger self, and this means that your meditation allows for deeper states to be achieved. If you fall asleep whilst listening that is not a problem, so you don’t need to struggle to stay awake to the end!

People often find that they can achieve deeper states of connection whilst listening to a tailored recording, and that they develop greater equanimity during the day and better sleep during the night.

My style of guided meditation leads you through connecting with your body, then the earth and then leads you on to connecting with your larger self.

If you are interested please contact me. The Skype session to set this up typically lasts for 75 minutes to allow time for the initial discussion, the meditation itself, and some follow up discussion after the meditation to help you maximise its benefits in the future.

For details of costs please see here.

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Energy balancing and how it works- part two

This is the second part of a talk I gave to a small group of consultants and doctors at my local hospice.

For the first part, see here.

A little more about how it works 

I guess you probably have one of three predominant belief systems:

1 There is nothing that exists apart from our physical bodies, what we can see and what we can touch. (The atheist approach)

2 There is a God, and it takes a specific form, which may be religiously or culturally mediated. (The believer)

3 You are sitting on the fence and are not sure. (The agnostic).

For many years I was an atheist, then I became an agnostic, and then, when I started this work in energy balancing I became a believer – or a knower, in reality. But I became a knower because things happened that I know could not have happened if there had not been some form of consciousness at work that was larger than me and the client combined as physical beings.


  • My daughter feeling magnetically drawn across the room.
  • People reporting quite vivid experiences when I offered distance energy therapy. Things like, feeling somebody’s hands on their feet when there was nobody else in the room.
  • Even when touching people there is obviously something much more significant going on than just therapeutic touch. People see strong and vivid colours while they have their eyes closed, feel strong energy currents in their bodies, or sensations of heat or extreme cold.
  • Or, if my hands are close to but not touching their body, people may report that they can feel intense warmth from my hands. On checking the temperature of my hands immediately afterwards they confirm that my hands feel at normal temperature, and my experience of them is that they were at that temperature all during the session.
  • Or feeling another set of hands on their body as well as my own, when there is no-one else in the room.

None of these experiences are ones that I could induce voluntarily. And not everyone has these sorts of experiences, but they have been often enough for me to accept that there is something larger than me acting.

So, what IS it that is acting?

When I started meditating I felt quite comfortable with the concept of connecting with ‘the collective consciousness’. For me, if I had to describe what that looked like visually it would have been a large grey blanket, fairly uniform in look, that connected to all humanity. At the time, it seemed to work as a concept – it explained how I could access answers to problems by going into a quiet space, but there was something lacking though I was not able to qualify what.

But over the years of personal exploration I came to understand that, though consciousness may start out as undifferentiated, all uniform, it becomes increasingly differentiated through layers and layers until we, become manifest as units of consciousness condensed into physical form.

As this picture started emerging, through contemplation, reading, and other explorations, I came to understand that the layers of differentiation in consciousness each had multiple separate beings, each of which had their own particular range of interests and agendas to fulfill their personal desire for growth. (Remember, this is being described conceptually in a way that I as a human, can describe. I am sure it lacks subtlety seen from a larger perspective!)

And, if that were the case, then what we are connecting to as we expand our consciousness through meditation or energy balancing work, is extending our connection with the next layer up in differentiated consciousness – that part of the larger consciousness that is responsible for helping us to form as human beings. I call that next layer up our larger self, our core self, our inner being, and some people call it their higher self, though that is not a phrase I feel comfortable with.

This larger or core self is not physical, it is pure consciousness, non physical consciousness, though not pure undifferentiated consciousness. This is the part of ourselves that we lose contact with. This loss of contact renders us feeling lost and lacking in direction, which can then result in ill health and emotional isolation.

Once we start to strengthen that connection with our core self we start to gain access to a wider range of energies (which is really just another way of saying consciousness) and so we feel more whole, and more ‘connected’. More connected to ourselves, and so more connected to others.

So, my understanding, verified by the experiences I have had working with this, is that when these unusual experiences that recipients report happen – when they happen, they are effectively energies being manipulated by my and the recipients’ core beings to demonstrate that there is a larger range of consciousness in play.

And if the core beings, our core beings, can do that, then they can also, being non physical consciousness, and not limited by time and distance as we in physical form are, they/we can transmit energies between one another very easily. And this is the mechanism for long distance healing.

So, who is this work – energy balancing – for?

Well it seems to me, it could be for everyone! Certainly for those who wish to grow. It is part of our development path – to become more conscious of our wider consciousness, our core being. To become more sensitive to what is going on in our bodies, our surroundings, our fellow humans, and even beyond that. To become more aware of subtle energies and to connect to an increasingly wide range of subtle energies.

For many people, as it was for me when I first came across the concept, simply experiencing something different and something that could not be voluntarily invoked, was transformative. Whether it is just experiencing a deep sense of peace, seeing colours swirling in front of their eyes, feeling non physical hands, or energy currents in their bodies, is a deeply transforming experience.

It reinforces, and reminds us, that we are much more than the physical bodies we have assumed we are. That there is always more out there in the non physical world, that we can make contact with. As we make that contact, each and every one of us, we increase the effectiveness of bringing that wider range of consciousness and energy down into the world, and making it concrete by embodying it as part of ourselves.

And that brings me back to where I started out when I embarked on this journey of learning about energy work- my desire to find a way to make an impact at a distance, as the Eastern mystics did.

If you would like to experience this greater sense of connection for yourself through energy balancing, then please contact me. I work with people all over the world.



Energy balancing, and how it works – part one

This is a resume of a talk I recently gave to a small group of consultants and doctors at my local hospice on the work I do as an energy balancing therapist.


I’m Clare Palgrave, a volunteer complementary therapist working with energy therapy. I’ve been working here I day a week for about 2 years.

I’ve been practicing privately for about 10 years now, using energy balancing therapy, and have seen some good long-term results from it.

My background: Degree in Electronic Engineering, followed by 10 years working in BT and then Reuters managing a large international data communications network (in the days before IT came into being.)

Then I stopped work and had a family, and tried a lot of other things along the way.

I studied sustainable development at Masters level and spent several years running, as a volunteer, a sustainability group encouraging people to adopt sustainable lifestyle practices. I got burnt out and as I felt that the impact of what I had been doing was negligible, decided to look at alternative approaches.

One of the things I felt was that people were too busy, too starved for time, and too tired to contemplate making significant changes in their lifestyle, which would require thinking and possibly more time allocation. And I was aware that the modern way of life was itself unsustainable.

In parallel with all this, I had developed a meditation practice over 30 years ago, and continue to meditate daily for 30 minutes.

One of the things that I was fascinated with when reading accounts of eastern meditation masters was their belief that meditating whilst being isolated from the world could improve the state of the world, and I was constantly trying to understand that through my own practice.

Once I had given up running the sustainability group I spent some time out just idly exploring Youtube, and I came across a video showing details of a therapy known as Reconnective Healing. I read the book and found that when I tried it on my daughter, with her eyes closed, that after about 10 minutes, she felt drawn across the room as if magnetically towards me. I didn’t touch her at all.

This demonstrated to me, fairly unequivocally, that action at a distance could happen, and allowed me to comprehend the Eastern mystics’ point of view.

So I booked to learn Reconnective Healing and travelled to Hamburg to do so. It’s a hands-off approach, working in the vicinity of the client, but can also be done at a distance. I have worked with people in California over Skype.

I practiced it for five years until I was prompted to start touching people, and observed that for some people this improved the response they were able to make. So, now the energies that I flow are a combination of Reconnective Healing, the energies I was born with, and some more I have gained access to as I have developed my practice. In fact it is impossible for me to separate out some of the energies. When I flow Reconnective Healing I am aware that the energies I was born with are always there.

So what IS Energy Balancing?

It’s a name I use that takes away any cultural overlays and hopefully describes what it does, although it might seem a slightly alien concept.

Basically I move into a slightly altered state, still very aware of my surroundings, where I am able to access a wider spectrum of energies than I, or most people, normally do. Then I allow the energies to be transmitted through my body and consciousness to the recipient.

It can be done by touching people, or by standing with hands close to them or the energy can be sent over long distance. Touch is best where people are very ill or stressed, or out of contact with their larger selves. Where people are more in tune with themselves, but wish to experience a greater sense of expanded self, distance work can be very effective.

You may have heard of a variety of other names for it; Spiritual Healing, Pranic healing, energy therapy, and specific modalities such as Reiki, Reconnective Healing, EFT, Access Consciousness Bars, Quantum Touch, and countless others. Some of these focus on an individual’s own specific spectrum of energies, whilst others teach access to energies which are accessible to any who wish to connect with them.

It is something that not only CAN we all do, we all DO do to a certain extent, even though we may not be conscious of it. And each of us has their own unique blend of individual energies to contribute.

I prefer to refer to it as Energy Balancing because that is what it actually does – it balances out the energies in the body to those that most suit the recipient at the time. The result is that 98% of the time recipients experience a deep sense of peace, often like nothing they have experienced before. I believe this is because they have connected with a larger part of themselves and so they feel more whole.

That deep sense of peace often demonstrates to people something they have never experienced before – a greater sense of connection to a larger body of consciousness – what some people might call God.

So, in the work I do in the hospice, I work with inpatients, outpatients, family, the bereaved, and staff, both admin and nursing. With an inpatient I will typically spend 20 minutes with them and work with them either on the bed, or wherever they are sitting. With those who are mobile, such as staff and family I work with them on a couch in a therapy room.

If they are tense, whoever they are, I take them on a guided visualization to a favourite place of their choice and lead them into an immersion of the sense of the peace they had obtained there. This initial relaxation renders them more open to benefitting from the session.

After the session I will spend some time discussing their experience and coaching them as to how to maximize the benefit from it.

I also have a small private practice from my home where I tend to work with people who are very aware that they are not as connected as they would like, and I work with them over several months to help strengthen their connection with their larger selves.

How does it work?

We are all made up of energy, and physicists can measure some of the energy that comprises us. Quantum theory shows that in fact there are an infinite number of energies around us. We are only currently able to isolate and measure a very small portion of those energies, which we then perceive as the sum total of the physical world.

But in fact there is a very wide range of energies that contribute to our health and wellbeing. As long as we can physiologically maintain a connection to those ‘hidden’ energies we feel good and our bodies work well. But circumstances, including just ordinary day-to-day living, create a barrier to our ability to connect with those hidden energies.

Because we believe we are made up of purely the physical matter that we can measure we forget about the wider range of energy that is essential for our optimal health. Modern day medicine, both here and also to some extent in the East now, ignores the subtle energy element of our makeup and relies heavily on chemical and physical intervention. The subtle element, what some might call the spiritual element, is forgotten, because of cultural pragmatism. If you can’t measure it you can’t sell it. Or, if it smacks of God, or anything that could be associated with religion, then people feel uncomfortable because that simply isn’t rational.

There are a number of ways we can regain access to this wider range of energies.

One is to meditate – mindfulness being an example well adapted to the western mindset. This allows the mind and body to relax more deeply than it is used to, and that, over time, allows the pathways, both those we are currently aware of medically, and also those that are non identifiable at the moment, to become free to flow the forgotten energies. Mindfulness ‘opens the window’.

A second way is to spend time out in nature. Again, apart from the obvious benefits that being out in a natural environment yields, nature also acts as a physical buffer for the unseen subtle energies, which can exist there because there is much less human based influence to override the energies. This means they are much more accessible. We come to a state in nature where we begin to access these subtle energies again. That’s why, at a very simple level, patients who have a window onto a green environment get better sooner.

A third way is for someone to receive an energy infusion from an energy therapy practitioner, to kickstart their bodies into remembering the connections to energies that it had forgotten. That is what I do here.

A fourth way is to practice yoga in the way that it was originally intended in India, by paying considered internalized attention to body processes. Or any slow and internalized physical practice such as Tai Chi Chuan, though I feel Yin Yoga probably has the edge on that.

And, although not directly accessing the wider range of subtle energies, a good healthy lifestyle, good diet and staying fit, enable the more contemplative and internalized practices to be more effective.

In the next post I will talk more about how it works, a model of consciousness explaining distant ‘healing’ and more about who can benefit from it.

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What is mindfulness

Starlight StarbrightSomeone asked me today what mindfulness actually was, and this is what I came up with. Of course, it only answers a very small part of the question, but is a start of what may be an exploration of our connection with wider frameworks of non physical consciousness.

Mindfulness is a form of meditation that has its roots in eastern tradition. It has taken the best of eastern meditation approaches and adapted them to the western world so removing the dogma and cultural association. Its benefits are just the same as the eastern approach, but its application has been made relevant to our western mindset. Continue reading

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Course on effortless meditation run by Peter Russell

Peter Russell, with 40 years of meditation experience, is running an online course on how to meditate without even trying. It’s a 5 weeks long downloadable audio course, and charged on a ‘pay as you wish’ basis, so is accessible to everyone.

A free introduction to the course is here.

The course is intended for novices and experienced meditators alike. I shall be trying it out myself.


Effortless meditation

I came across this post by Peter Russell recently. He is someone who has spent a significant part of his life exploring consciousness. Like me, he started out using Transcendental Meditation techniques, and moved on, sampling other approaches until he found an effortless meditation technique.

I find this intriguing, as it parallels my own journey. Somehow, almost as a natural process I found myself discarding most meditation ‘techniques’ and just sitting/lying down to meditate. Now, I just allow meditation to happen. Continue reading